Friday, May 25, 2012

Reflections on Melinda's Reflections


UPDATE:  As time permits, I will continue to add to this post as I'm sure much of what I've said can be clarified or better expressed.

I recently read a blog post entitled “Heterosexual Bypass Surgery” written by columnist and author Melinda Selmys.  While reading Melinda’s post, several thoughts popped into my head and it’s taken me a little while to organize those thoughts and write them down.

First, I believe context is important to a proper understanding of Father Harvey’s statements.  I asked Melinda for the sources she used for her blogpost, and she graciously supplied them: In a 2006 Zenit interview, Fr. Harvey is quoted as saying, "The fact of the matter is that there is only one orientation, the heterosexual orientation. The homosexual tendency is an objective disorder, and if a person has this objective disorder, it is because other things have happened."  Later in the same interview, Father says "Dr. Joseph Nicolosi, founder of the National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality, in Encino, California, says it best when he says that there are no homosexuals, just heterosexuals with a homosexual tendency."

In the Zenit interview, Father Harvey was asked to respond to a document issued by the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops on November 14, 2006 entitled “Ministry to Persons with a Homosexual Inclination: Guidelines for Pastoral Care.”  Father Harvey explained that he views that document as a distinct improvement over an earlier document entitled “Always Our Children.”  Fr. Harvey had written detailed responses to both the original and revised versions of “Always Our Children.”  Instead of attempting to summarize Father’s concerns and observations about that document, I will simply refer the reader to both of Father’s responses – they can be found here and here.


It is necessary to read both those responses to understand Father’s statement that "there is only one orientation, the heterosexual orientation," and his agreement with Joseph Nicolosi’s statement that “there are no homosexuals, just heterosexuals with a homosexual tendency.”

Melinda says “Unless you happen to be talking to a very committed gay philosopher who believes that his homosexuality forms the ontological matrix of his personhood, this argument [Fr. Harvey’s statement above] commits a category error.” 

I don’t believe Fr. Harvey has committed a category error because he is in fact addressing those who hold that homosexuality ontologically defines their personhood when he makes the statements above.  One of Father’s concerns about the wording of “Always Our Children” was that it was vulnerable to misuse by activists who wish to promote homosexuality as a) a necessarily permanent and central part of one’s identity, and b) as being equivalent to heterosexuality, as though the term objective disorder no longer applied. 

Father Harvey would absolutely agree with Melinda’s observation that each person’s fundamental purpose is to be eternally united with Christ and, in doing so, to find a joy that completely satisfies all human desire and surpasses all human pleasures; however, the fact that a person is created for complete union with Christ doesn’t negate the original intended complementarity of man and woman.   Adam and Eve were created for companionship and a union that reflects divine love.  Eros was not absent from their union, but it was rightly ordered before the Fall.

Since the Fall, all human beings suffer from the effects of original sin.  It manifests itself in a host of ways.  Some human beings are drawn to seek sexual genital pleasure with their own gender.  A plethora of interwoven factors which vary from person to person can lead up to such temptations.  The inclination towards same-sex genital activity is objectively disordered because the sexual acts that one is tempted to engage in can never, under any circumstance lead to the creation of new life.  At the same time, the attractions themselves are often psychologically understandable when one looks at the various factors that can influence one’s psychosexual development.

Father Harvey has always stated that a person who experiences same-sex erotic attraction is under no moral obligation to seek to develop heterosexual erotic desire or affectivity.  What is obligatory is chastity, and the best way to develop interior chastity is through union with Christ and prayer of the heart.

Father Harvey also refused to identify any human being by his or her temptations because he held that a human being is so much more than his temptations.  He had also stated that he wished he could rename his first book The Homosexual Person to The Person with Same-Sex Attractions so as to put even further emphasis on one’s personhood.

Father believed, as the scriptures tell us, that humanity has been created male and female for a reason.  These male and female signifiers are not merely incidental, but essential to our personhood.  To be a human male or a human female is to be heterosexual, ontologically speaking.  By that I simply mean that male-female complementarity is part of the original plan and remains fundamental to each human being's true identity. This is objectively true, even when one’s subjective desires and erotic attractions may persistently be towards the same sex.   This is why Father Harvey says, “There is only one orientation, the heterosexual orientation,” and it’s also why he agrees with Joseph Nicolosi’s observation that there are no homosexuals, just heterosexuals with a homosexual tendency.”  For Fr. Harvey, what is ontologically true is what is essential in defining personhood.

Again, this does not mean that a same-sex attracted person is morally required to try to move towards heterosexual desire.  As Melinda says, "Instead of trying to reorient homosexual desire towards heterosexual desire, it is possible to simply bypass heterosexuality [heterosexual erotic desire] and move directly towards Goodness, Beauty, Truth." 

Fr. Harvey also recognized that our weaknesses can be a huge source of grace, because it is usually our own weaknesses that humble us and bring us to our knees.  Father believed that the person who experiences same-sex attractions could lead a chaste and holy life in union with Christ, and he encouraged us to say with St. Paul, “Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me.”  Not every same-sex attracted person who is living chastely is necessarily in a position to publicly boast about his/her weaknesses, but those who are can be a great witness and example to others.

I should also mention that Father Harvey would not encourage the use of the terms “gay” and “lesbian” for a variety of pastoral and philosophical reasons which I’ll have to address in another post.   Certainly, there are those who choose to publicly self-identify as “gay” or “lesbian” who have also publicly made known their commitment to chastity, and I have no doubt they are serious in their commitment - but there are other implications and possible consequences of the use of those terms which I think need to be considered; one example is the pressure upon teenagers to identify themselves as “gay” or “lesbian” when they are still in a very formative stage of their psychosexual development.  Again, this will have to wait for another post.

What I’ve written so far is a very incomplete analysis of Father Harvey’s thought as well as Melinda’s post, and there are several points which could be better expressed.  This is just my attempt to contribute in some small way to the discussion at hand before another month goes by!   

Monday, December 27, 2010

Rev. John F. Harvey, OSFS: 1918 - 2010

Thank you, Father Harvey, for your kindness, compassion, and friendship.  I was so blessed to know you, and now we're all blessed to have a friend like you in heaven.

UPDATE: A Memorial Mass for Fr. Harvey will be held in NYC on Saturday, February 19.

Sunday, October 3, 2010

Alex Jones' Testimony

Alex Jones, a former Pentecostal minister, enters the Catholic Church.  This is Part 1 of his testimony.  The rest of the talk can be found on YouTube.

Saturday, October 2, 2010

Blues Guitar Chords

This guy is great: Marty Schwartz from http://www.guitarjamz.com/.  He teaches clearly and he's mostly easy to follow.  I've started following his video lessons on YouTube .

Sunday, September 19, 2010

A Voice from Afar

Today, the Holy Father gave the title of "Blessed" to Cardinal John Henry Newman.  Here's a poem by Blessed Cardinal Newman entitled "A Voice from Afar", reminding us of the joy and rest he has in God's presence:

Weep not for me;—
Be blithe as wont, nor tinge with gloom
The stream of love that circles home,
Light hearts and free!
Joy in the gifts Heaven’s bounty lends;
Nor miss my face, dear friends!

I still am near;—
Watching the smiles I prized on earth,
Your converse mild, your blameless mirth;
Now too I hear
Of whisper’d sounds the tale complete,
Low prayers, and musings sweet.

A sea before
The Throne is spread;—its pure still glass
Pictures all earth-scenes as they pass.
We, on its shore,
Share, in the bosom of our rest,
God's knowledge, and are blest.

Saturday, September 18, 2010

Conservatives of Colour

I love these guys and gals for speaking up!

Raheel Raza - Another Brave Woman!

Raheel Raza rocks! And she's a fellow Canadian! :)



Friday, September 17, 2010

Yom Kippur

On this Day of Atonement, may our names be inscribed and sealed in the Book of Life.

Sunday, September 12, 2010

God is Love

This morning, I re-read sections 3 - 11 of Pope Benedict's first encyclical, Deus Caritas Est - God is Love. I'm currently reading St. Teresa of Avila's autobigraphy and I find that St. Teresa's description of the relationship between her soul and God is written in the language of eros - at least that's what it sounds like to me. Recently, someone reminded me that Pope Benedict wrote about eros in his first encyclical. I re-read the relevant sections of the encyclical this morning - beautiful stuff in there. Here are just a few short excerpts:

"True, eros tends to rise 'in ecstasy' towards the Divine, to lead us beyond ourselves; yet for this very reason it calls for a path of ascent, renunciation, purification and healing."


"The one God in whom Israel believes...loves with a personal love. His love, moreover, is an elective love: among all the nations he chooses Israel and loves her—but he does so precisely with a view to healing the whole human race. God loves, and his love may certainly be called eros, yet it is also totally agape."


"God is the absolute and ultimate source of all being; but this universal principle of creation—the Logos, primordial reason—is at the same time a lover with all the passion of a true love. Eros is thus supremely ennobled, yet at the same time it is so purified as to become one with agape."

I'm grateful for these reminders that God is not opposed to eros; rather, it is His gift to us, a means of drawing closer to Him through purification, and growth in maturity.

Saturday, September 11, 2010

Sunday, August 29, 2010

Go Granny, Go!

Yesterday morning, we got my Nana a wheelchair - specifically a transport chair. My Nana can still walk and she prefers to walk, but because she moves very slowly and gets tired quickly, we thought a transport chair would be helpful (my Nana is almost 98!). It used to be slow and difficult walking Nana down the long hallway to the elevator and then walking her to the car in the underground garage -now, getting Nana to the car is a breeze! Yesterday, I wheeled her over to the park near our building. There she sat for a while on the bench, and then she walked around for a bit. Afterwards, I wheeled her home. She says she's comfortable in the chair, and it's quite easy for me to move her in it. I really enjoyed the convenience of it and I think even she preferred getting around with some ease for a change.

I'm glad Nana still wants to try to walk whenever possible, but I'm also glad that some of her movement has been made easier!

Sunday, August 8, 2010

London, Baby!

I thoroughly enjoyed our trip to London. It was jam-packed with sight-seeing - not a moment was wasted! Here's a quick list of what we covered during our eight day visit:

Double-decker tour of city
Thames Cruise
Mass at Westminster Cathedral

London Eye
Covent Garden Market
Piccadilly Circus
Trafalgar Square
Leicester Square

Dinner at Maze (Gordon Ramsay)
Tower of London
Chapel of St. Peter Ad Vincula
All Hallows by the Tower
British Museum (Rosetta Stone, Reliquary of the Holy Thorn, etc.)
Madame Tussaud's
Daytrip: Warwick Castle/Stratford/Oxford/Cotswolds

British Library (Lindisfarne Gospels, Magna Carta, etc.)
Sherlock Holmes Museum
National Portrait Gallery
Westminster Abbey
Local Pubs

Tyburn Convent
Performance of Henry VIII at The Globe

Dinner at the Cinnamon Club (Indian food)
Harrods
Marks & Spencer’s
Buckingham Palace
Big Ben
St. Paul’s Cathedral
Riding the Tube

My friend also made it to the Inns of Court and the Churchill Museum and Cabinet War Rooms, while I went to the British Library, the British Museum, and the National Portrait Gallery.

Please check my Facebook account for photos!

I'm still not fond of flying, but I LOVE visiting new cities. I hope to get back to London one day because there's so much more to see (believe it or not!). I'd also like to see other parts of England (and Ireland, Austria, etc., etc., etc.)


Wednesday, July 14, 2010

A cool refreshing summer drink!


Watermelon Sunset

Put the following ingredients in a blender - the quantity of each ingredient is up to you:

- watermelon chunks (seedless)
- freshly squeezed lime juice
- sugar
- crushed ice
- rum ("Sailor Jerry" is good)

Blend together a good long time until frothy and pour into a tall glass.
Enjoy!! :)

Saturday, July 10, 2010

Catholic Professor Attacked

The perpetrators were eight Islamic extremists who used an axe, knives, and a petrol bomb. The Professor lost his lower right arm below the elbow. While Professor T. J. Joseph is recovering in intensive care, his family has chosen to forgive his attackers. (h/t: The Anchoress)

Our theme-song for the last two weeks

The Truth will set you free...

...but, in this life, you will probably be persecuted and mistreated first:

Fired for being faithful: Catholic teacher dismissed over homosexuality discussion (by Thomas Peters - American Papist)

UPDATE: Dr. Ken Howell Reinstated!

Monday, July 5, 2010

Summer Daze

Right now, downtown Toronto is experiencing a power outage while all of Toronto is experiencing a heat-wave! I’ve been enjoying some time off since last Thursday and I go back to work on Wednesday. A belated Happy Canada Day (or Dominion Day, if you prefer) to my fellow Canadians, and a belated Happy 4th of July to my American friends!

The week before last was also a short week because the University closed down as a safety precaution during the lead-up to the G-20 Summit. My kind boss said I could use those two “work-from-home” days as additional vacation days, and I happily used the four-day weekend to visit friends in Ottawa – a lovely time with wonderful people (I particularly enjoyed the cute little kids)! :)

From all I can make out, the non-peaceful protesters at the Summit were as annoying and obnoxious as they usually are during these events. At least three police cruisers were set on fire, store fronts were destroyed, and the heavily fortified police presence was criticized for not doing enough on the first day of the Summit and for doing too much on the second day. I felt a little sick to think of all of this happening in my city.

I wonder why the G-20 leaders don’t just video-conference OR hold their meetings out in the desert or in the Arctic circle or on a remote island – some place where thug-protesters can’t be bothered to go because there’s nothing to destroy and they won’t get so much attention.

On a happier note, I’ve been enjoying my current time off right here in Toronto – watching the fireworks at Harbourfront on Canada Day, having tea with my favourite Professor, visiting an old friend for dinner, shopping in Chinatown with Mom, and spending time with Nana.

I’m also planning a trip to London later this month! I’ve never been, and I’m quite excited about it - please pray for safe travel!

Oh yes! We also experienced a 5.0 magnitude earthquake on June 23rd - the epicentre was about 85 kilometres north of Ottawa, and people felt it all the way down to Ohio. For some strange reason, I did not feel it at all, even though other people in my office building felt it. Sometimes, I'm incredibly unobservant...

Saturday, June 12, 2010

Monday, June 7, 2010

Ayaan Rocks!

This evening I had the pleasure of hearing Ayaan Hirsi Ali speak at the Indigo Bookstore at Bay and Bloor. I can only say once again that I admire this woman's courage, insight, and sincerity. Although Ayaan still considers herself an atheist, she's right up there with Camille Paglia in my book!

Thank you, Ayaan, for having the courage to speak out. I pray your bravery will lead you further and further into the Truth, and that you will be an example to many, many others. I pray that I too, as a Christian, will learn to show as much courage as you in witnessing to the Truth!

Update: Another must-read about Ayaan by Mark Steyn in Macleans.ca